BDSM MEDIA NEWS!!!!
01 june 2011
Sex under pressure
Source: www.starobserver.com.au - Starobserver.com.au - Australia
AUSTRALIA - Forcing a partner to have sex when they don’t want to, or making them do sex acts they’re not comfortable with, is sexual assault.
Forcing a partner to have sex when they don’t want to, or making them do sex acts they’re not comfortable with, is sexual assault.
“My ex-partner was really into bondage. I had never really been into it before I met him, but I would play along because it made him happy. One night I wasn’t feeling like sex and I just wanted to cuddle. He kept going on about how hard he was and wanted to get off.
“To appease him, I told him he could tie up my hands and wank. He got himself all worked up and wanted to fuck me. I kept saying ‘no’, which got him more excited. I used our safe word but he ignored it. He then pushed himself into me and began thrusting. I kept yelling at him to get off but he ignored it. I couldn’t believe that someone I loved was doing this to me.” Rick
It can be hard to accept that someone you care about has deliberately hurt you. It’s not just about hitting. Abuse can also include using force or fear to make you do things you don’t want to do. The use of emotional or physical violence to force another person to engage in sexual acts constitutes sexual assault.
“We were struggling a bit for cash and it was Laura’s idea for me to start doing some escort work. I didn’t want to but she made me feel guilty for spending our money. I ended up doing it and gave her the money I earned.
“She then began asking me more often to do escort work. Every time a new bill came in, she said we didn’t have enough money to pay it because I was spending too much. I kept doing the escort work so we could pay the bills.
“After a few months I found out she was dating other girls and wining and dining them, buying expensive presents for them. I was completely shattered when I found out. My self-esteem had been completely eroded.” Kelly
Any form of abuse should not be accepted in any relationship. If you feel like your relationship is abusive, help is out there.
info: Visit
www.anothercloset.com.au, or contact the Safe Relationships Project at
www.iclc.org.au/srp, or 02 9332 1966 or 1800 244 481.
